Most of the time, when I have to deal with myself being angry, it is because I'm not setting boundaries and honoring them. This usually happens when someone needs something from me and I put their need ahead of mine. Do that too much and I get stretched too far... and then I get angry.
So over the past 4 years I've been saying no. A lot. NO. NO. NO.
No is not a bad word. I find it very liberating.
And I think it is important.
In early childhood development they say that a child has to say "MINE" and be allowed to mean it before they can share. I feel like I have to be allowed to say "NO!" and mean it before I can truly say yes.
My inner two year old is delighted. I mean she is so gleefully hollering NO at everything that moves. I found some pictures of me at this age. When did I forget how to have fun?
|not quite 2|
Maybe that guy across the way that yells "shut up you little shit" at my kids (we are pretty sure he has tourettes) will yell "shut up" and I can yell "NO!"
|about 2 1/2 yrs old. oh my! I look like a holy terror! |
When did I become to uptight?